I’m polygamous and have ALWAYS been. I’ve never had a steady girlfriend, due first to circumstance and unrequired love and, later, to acceptance and a general love of the situation.
I’ve never, EVER, lied to a woman about my polygamy. I can’t… This, of course, has caused me to loose a few relationships that “coulda been”, but, then again it’s a kind of litmus test… If you’re not down with putting UP with my criteria in sex, fine, we can be great friends, and exchange opinions, but we’re probably not going to agree that our "own way" is the best for the other.
My respect for those who foster steady relationships is absolute. My opinion (and this is mine, applied to my experience and the way I am, it’s not targeted at criticising anyone, let it be said!) is that love shouldn’t be forced or institutionalised…. I see it as orbits, (my favourite analogy) The planets orbit around the Sun, held together by different tensions. Sometime they’re closer, sometimes farther apart, but they just… well, float! That’s the way I see things… for me, in “my “ galaxy”….
The biggest form of trust and love, for me, is letting go. The girl with whom I’ve had the longest (and still ongoing) relationship in my life actually lives in another city and with another guy… I don’t even wanna meet him, but I love him. He’s doing something that I don’t see myself capable off, which is living and sharing with someone… constantly. I’m very jealous, not of my privacy… (couldn’t give a fuck about that) but of my personal space. It took me ages to get over the fact that she was leaving for another city, but that taught me to let go and love her without forcing the issue or imposing myself on her.
Have I ever been with a guy? Yup, a couple of times, but not too often because (roll of the drums!) MOST MEN ARE PIGS! (That being the source of bacon, oink!) I get turned on more by thinking about doing with a man than actually doing it, it sort of gives me the creeps. The times I’ve done it I’ve been disappointed by their attitude. I think that, if anything, I’m a lesbian… I truly look for friendship, companionship and sex in women. Gay guys turn me off… they’re too obvious, but I don’t really know how to “pick up” a guy that I could be attracted to. Help me out!!!
AND... I get embarrassed talking about myself and this "Mark III" profile is already waayy too long, so I'll just shut up now.